Until You Learn The Meaning of the Blues

Why a Man Won't Sleep with a Woman

There's next article just think would probably not make for print 70 years ago. Women talking openly about sex whether it's in a marriage or as a single women. That's amazing when one can think how women and sex is now a multi-million dollar market. There are hundreds of articles, magazines and ads that discuss having more rewarding sex, but what about not having sex at all. Even more, what about a man that a woman was having sex with that suddenly doesn't want to any more. Let's take a look at single woman's sexual life with a man for a moment and ask the question, why would a man want to stop having sex with her? Let's also assume that she believes he is her "boyfriend."  Or could that be part of the problem; she thinks he's her boyfriend, yet there's been no confirmation from him to her that they are in a relationship. Well, assuming that he is not of a caveman personality, here are a few reasons why a man may not want to have sex with a woman suddenly that he has been.

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Professionalism in Romantic Relationships

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Removing Professionalism from Romance  08/07/2012 - 00:22

Relationship Trauma

Relationship trauma are those things in the deep subconscious mind of the child within an adult that keeps a romantic relationship for moving forward.  Relationship trauma can be from the affects of mirror neurons,-(explained through a link at the end of this article),- childhood or sexual abuse and even ultra-conservative upbringing.  It is relationship trauma that helps disturbed the ability to have in some cases open and or trusting relationships with other adults and in one on one intimate relationships.
Complete article by author on Relationship Trauma
© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing, Inc

Satisfaction Purposes (Introduction)

She looks at the reflection of her mirror and thinks to herself if she is blessed, lucky or simply is paid for her good deeds throughout her life. She ponders whether to thank an entity bigger than her spirit that is filled with thankfulness. She has the voice of reason. She speaks to the sound of the rain as she listens to the wind roar with it and remembers as the words come... the words.... they come and her whispers can be heard along with her guide in his inner heart feel them say-


PART I

PART II

Satisfaction Purposes (Poem part 2)

There would be a hundred thousand winds before the tide would change between them but then

why would it when only love bears satisfaction purposes between the warmth of their hands and the wave of their bodies

Yesterday and Tomorrow are one like the sun that does not rise or set since they met there is only satisfaction and purposes that the cosmos sets in motion

to build peace and serenity to the lives of many who set eyes upon their satisfaction and with purpose do their noses smell their skins

and it continues to evoke pleasure not pain and to measure the depth of our hearts as we gain purposes to satisfy the sweat from our foreheads, my breasts and his chest.

And she warms my world with vigor and passion and I am thankful for her presence and the present of her spirit that engulfs my breath as I sigh from satisfaction purposes and die a small death do I not worry in her arms

Put at my feet admiration and rise will your throne to command no more war as you walk the lands-

Defend will my glory your dreams and defeat lack of promises with truth told across the ages that our love does not carry with it hate-

From day to day not only the wise can see

we are

to each other

for satisfaction purposes only

PART I

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing, Inc.

Satisfaction Purposes Only ( Poem part 1)

Thought I'd change the pace and give you a few poetic images for the weekend

put at my feet admiration
Forget the stars in the skies, but make them in my eyes glisten until the morning dew wakes the worms and my toes wiggle-  for satisfaction purposes

Change oh don't change you whisper in the sunlight to never wake up
and wake up do I want
in a new bed of memories
for satisfaction purposes

Two as one yes
the words fit
and admiration and plans and success and happiness and the love of love wets our lips

As for satisfaction purposes does our lips kiss the wind with tales of history gone bad
and a future we crave daily through dusk to embrace each other through starlit blue hazel skies in trust, then lust and must we remain civil for continued satisfaction purposes

PART II     © 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing, Inc.

Genderlect Styles

Genderlect Styles-a ten part series by Sharon L. West

One of my favorite subject matters when it comes to communication in romantic relationships is genderlect styles.  Genderlect styles is the conversations between men and women that can be described in part as that which often emotionally leaves men thinking and or saying women or drama and women about men that they can't understand them.  The book Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus by John Gray published 10 years ago in 1992, was the beginning of dating and married men and women starting to be taken notice by the public at large that there is a real difference in the direction of communication between the sexes.

John Gray's work borrows from another great author named Deborah Tannen in which all who study romantic relationships know as Deborah often refers to the gender speak between the two as being a cross cultural communication.  In my newsletters and lectures, I borrow in part from both authors in addition to newly taught theories, scientific facts about neurology as yet even more cross reference that includes religious values, work environment and more as to why and how men and women think, act and react differently to various encounters in their daily communication with one another.

The upcoming articles will be a series on genderlect styles.  In the series, readers will begin to learn why there is similar miscommunication that occurs all the time between men and women.  Readers will begin to realize that all men and women generally miss the deeply rooted issues involved with cross-cultural encounters with men and women.  Even nations where women and men are separated from each other as a rule of preserving man and womanhood via cultural and or religious values, there are genderlect styles each sex is conditioned by in communication with each other during quiet private moments during what communication specialist deem, integration and separation.  (Refer to a previous article in my relational dialectic series called, Integration and Separation for a glimpse of the matter.)

I do not, as with my last series on relational dialectic, go into depth about the subject matter of genderlect styles enough for a total personal reflection or ability to write an essay from any of the articles.  This would call for your own study and or further investigation into programs I have designed.  Instead the aim of all of the articles are to help readers begin to realize that there is a real communication difference between the sexes that is not just altered by mass media and broadcast, but a state of consciousness that is altered by it.  Most important, the articles are for both men and women to start learning more about the natural process of communication between the sexes that is real for all men and women defined as gender-speak and genderlect styles.

To further read about relational dialectics start here.  For more on the genderlect series start here.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Men Cheating is Not Natural (3)

Married women of all nationalities have become conditioned through media programming by predominately white wealthy males to believe that if they do not look, talk or act a certain way, especially after having a child or children, they will not be appealing to their man and that it is their faults if their man starts a relationship outside of marriage.  One of the conditions of any program is that if you see or experience a thing long enough it becomes natural.  This is a  syndrome that many married couples face by simple falling into roles they are taught means being a married man or married woman.  Both genders once they get married begin to lose the basic instinct of friendship that bond them before they got married.  In some cases, couples never gain an open honest friendship and disgust the matters of what it means to be a husband and wife to each other as opposed to taking on fixed stereotypical roles of what media education trains humans to be as men and women.
Men Cheating is Not Natural part 2
http://expertscolumn.com/content/men-cheating-not-natural-part-2

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Men and Cheating (2)

When a man cheats, he is reacting to a combination of mental stimuli that includes images programmed in him by way of Hollywood.  He is taught from an early age to grow up and get the fancy car and money so he can have loads of woman.  What Hollywood never portrays is the family life in a constructive way, but a way of being dysfunctional. Media teaches both men and women that unity in a marriage is unnatural.


© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Men Cheating is Not Natural (1)

First and foremost, the definition of cheating should be defined for reference to the contents of this article.

Taken from an online dictionary:

Cheating: Act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, esp. in a game or examination: "she cheats at cards". Deceive or trick."

The fact that women believe that it is natural for a man is reinforced by programming.  This programming includes a medium controlled by financially empowered men whose main gain in life is often based on being deceitful.  A man's natural instinct is not to be dishonest, deceitful and or destructive.  In fact, he is ordained to provide, protect and produce means that are beneficial to society, his family and mate. Analyzing the contrasts of two characteristics, cheating vs. being a man, it is not natural for a man to cheat.  Cheating is a learned behavior. It is a taught behavior and is a way of living that is not conducive with being a man.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Love and Mental Health

Face it. Since men are always being trained to hide their feelings and or society doesn't take time to consider men can be sensitive and gain broken hearts just as much as a women, little care and advice is available for men with broken hearts. One of the signs of a broken hearted man is mental health conditions. Poor mental health is at a high among men of all nationalities. With unemployment and broken family ties rampant, men are suffering in silence when it comes to emotional pain that hardens, and or shatters comfort in, their hearts.
(Link to full article)  How to Mend a Man's Broken Heart


© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup- 5 tips

The best relationships are those that help a person grow emotionally. When a relationship ends, concentrate on the positive aspect of that in the relationship that was not favorable since it will help with making decisions of not repeating that which is not good for your person. Love can help you become a better appreciated communicator. Here are a few dating tips when searching for a new love. To find Love and Respect take in consideration the following 5 posts.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup (1)

DECIDE to inspire being loved. If you haven't had good preparation for grooming strong intimate relationships, project to the person of your interest that they need to accept who you are without thinking they can change you. Change in your person will come with compromise not demand. Say to yourself daily, "I deserve to be loved and respected because I am a loving and respecting being." Remember you are what you think and you will attract what you feel about yourself from the opposite sex.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup (2)

DETERMINE at least five things you should be loved for and write them down. If you have a fun sense of humor, write it down. If it's your manners, communication skills or attentive listening, write them down. Just make sure what you document are personality traits. You don't want to write down attributes; beautiful eyes, soft and supple skin, silky hair and being muscular for example. These are characteristics of lust and conceit, not love or capabilities.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup (3)

ACCEPT BEING LOVED. Start by reviewing your list and listening to yourself saying them out loud. Use a mirror and smile when you repeat what you have written about yourself so it can become a part of your conscious state and project to those you meet. You deserve to be loved for those qualities you respect about yourself, so respect yourself first to be treated respectfully.
© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup (4)

PEER HELP. Cconsider asking friends to write on a piece of paper the attributes in you they admire. Try asking them to make a small list of maybe five sentences of good feelings or things you have done for them that made them happy. Review their lists often to accept why you deserve to be loved.
© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

How to Find Love after a Breakup (5)

RELEASE FEAR. Continue to be fearless about your projection of self and you will find that you begin to attract people of like disposition. You are your own universe. When looking for a mate, what you create as desires will come to you with practicing the tips in this article religiously. For more advice log on to the following 3 complete articles:
PINK LENS EFFECT  
CAVEMAN RESPONSE  
ULTIMATE NATURAL APHRODISIAC FOR WOMEN

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Enticing Men

The voice of a woman is engaging. Practice and learn to speech in a tone an octave lower. The female voice is generally pitchy when she gets excited. Using a lowered tone method of speaking helps to keep the pitch not only favorable, but helps keep the male psyche for being able to better absorb what is being relayed by a woman. Speak slower and take time to think before you speak. Access the circumstance and who you are talking to for the words you want or need to express. Be profound, precise and profanity free.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

What Does it Mean to be Active Aggressive Progressive?

Simply put, being active aggressive progressive is a personality trait that lends to using procrastination as a means to action orientated decision making that leads to envision opportunities that attract positive  solid business and personal relationships. It is the thinking process that ties ventures together for good purposes and experiences that are not wasteful.  One cannot be progressive if time is not planned actively and then aggressively put into action by being steadfast in moving forward or to the next level when a goal is met.  Goals are created by perception and to perceive a progressive state of mind, within silent moments, the mind must actively use all references and experiences in one's life as positive indicators.  Positive thinking ignites active aggressive progressive character in humans.  It is another key to success and happiness.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

The One

Men's dreams are based on putting plans in motion.  A man that takes time to plan is not one to aspire, but to be active aggressive progressive in their actions.  There's a mouth full.   It is the place a woman wants to meet a man in his life.  A man that plans and conquers is living out his natural instinct.  If he is not married, dating will suffice filling the void of the animal magnetism in his life, but he plans for a woman to be by his side even if he is not conscious that it is what he needs or wants.  It's the natural order of things for him to be mated with "The One".  There's a misconception of what is "the one."  Often humans think  the saying, "The One" is in reference to a mate as being the perfect partner.  Could or could not be true in the sense at least of being of the same ideals.  Instinctively, The One is just that; ONE mate.  It may not be one mate or the same mate for the rest of one's life, but the perfect mate is ONE at a time that is a confidant, best friend, lover and on your team of successful ventures in confidence and sincerity.

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing

Communication Adaptability

Since spirituality in many cases in the form of organized religion is a major condition in most people's life, researching and or analyzing a variety of religious values could help to recognize the lack of the ability in a person or group of people's ability to adapt or not adapt due to their spiritual upbringing and or focus.  Being familiar with different thinking patterns of religious groups could also help with learning how to adapt to different social situations and the ethics in differences.  The right to religious values is a personal choice.  It can become an issue, however, when those values clash with a  mate or group of people because of one's lack of clarity, or openness to accept or lack of ability to agree to disagree.

A remedy to this lack of communication is to be knowledgeable enough to see the similarities in belief systems.  Learning more in depth why you or someone maybe adamant about religious values is a way to help build understanding, acceptance and adaptation to the psychological needs of others.

Adaptability for making high incomes

© 2012 Sharon L. West- 2008-2012 MightyDreamer Publishing