You can Meet a Wonderful Man Online

At least I think so.  I would like to think that there are actually men and women who are looking for more than sexual gratification when trying to meet someone online.  One of the best ways to help ensure a better chance you and a person you meet online could have a better chance of getting to know each other, if you both like each other, is to take your time with getting to know them before meeting them in person.  Pictures do not speak a 1000 words. In fact the initial meeting can kill pictures if you meet too quickly, at least that's my impression.

Forming an emotionally attraction with someone through online chatting, texting and phone conversation can make for a transition to meeting far more smooth than talking once or twice and then meeting in person. I have found that a month, though it could be a long wait, can help make for pictures not saying enough on a positive tip.  Many people are simply not photographic and others are more photographic than in person.  Yet, if a profile and pic was interesting enough for a man and woman to take out the time to connect in conversation, the extra time communicating before meeting each other, might just help with either negating a poor photo or making a really great photo not important in the initial face to face meeting.  That's providing of course that the person is generally the age and body size shown in online dating profile pictures.

I have only dated three men I met online.  Not one, that I got involved in any romantic interlude. My choices were out of hundreds of profiles I glanced at. I've been registered for online dating sites for just over one year.  I'm simply on a mission. I don't want to waste anyone's time or mine.  The criteria I spoke about in the post before this one are the ones I initially use and I have to tell you, the age bracket a man is looking for is a bigger for me.  It helps me narrow down quickly if I will contact a man or if he has contacted me, whether I will respond or not.

I want to only date men I feel have the potential for me to feel I could maybe consider being their wife and the only way I'm going to feel that way is to periodically view their profiles, find common interest, feel and understand their goals and talk one on one for many hours.  Don't get me wrong.  That doesn't mean I will not date or expect to marry anyone I meet and date within months or even a couple of years. Nevertheless, he has to have, at this stage in my life, exceptional trustworthiness, commonality, be progressive, emotionally stable, sincere, flexible and very versatile.  Looks are secondary.  By looks being secondary, I simply mean his face and body doesn't have to be that of a million dollar model.  Generally, I'm going to be attracted to anyone I meet, so I will only become more attracted as we get to know each other.

Finally, don't get it twisted.  I'm looking for a team player and someone I can serve as a team mate. Anything less, is not going to work. I'm not interested in being a trophy or taken care of, but to help build an empire.  There is a certain type of man that can appreciate a woman like myself.  I know that type of man has often been wounded, so I know it will both take time to find him and will need to take my time with him.

How to View Online Dating Profiles

Simple put. If you are a man or woman, you should consider three criteria to look for in an online dating profile:

The initial profile pick; not all the pictures first. Then:

1. What they are looking for in an online dating experience: casual, chat, serious or marriage
2. The age bracket they are willing to dateWhere a person states they live
3. How old they claim to be
4. How many children they have or not

These are my suggestions before even beginning to read their profile or looking at a bunch of pictures they may have posted.

Check a Man Before You Commit

Online dating comes with an at your own risk contract.  You cannot complain to an online dating service that you have had an unfavorable connection with a man or woman or prove that you've been swindled by a man or woman or otherwise.  Do yourself and others a favor if you find someone out to do harm during dating sprees, by posting at the many online sites that keep records of both men and women who cannot be trusted or have proven to be serial daters and more.

In fact, regularly check these sites with the username of a person of your interest, even up until you at least think, you and your prospective mate have decided to be in a committed relationship. You maybe quite surprised what you might find.  Try variations of the name too such as the username and extra numbers. Here's a famous variation: the username and then the word "FUN" behind the name; I've seen this twice on two different man's name.  Be wise and vigilant in checking behind a man's stories, until you feel comfortable enough as if you met him in the beginning face to face. Most importantly, if he turns out to be a Ricky, please, don't think it had anything to do with what you didn't do or who you are.  Unsure or unscrupulous men are helplessly emotionally unstable and often simply arrogant or conceted: all attributes not mate or marriage material. Keep it moving.

How to Stop a Man Who Lies at Online Dating Sites (2)

If he says he is divorced, ask to see the divorce papers.  If he says he lives in Long Island or Maryland and you live in NYC or Washington, DC, before you meet, make it clear that you expect to see his driver license.  Asking for a birth certificate of someone you are dating for a couple of months is not unreasonable either.  Mostly, if he claims to own a house or live alone and you have been communicating weekly or worse yet, daily, and you have never seen where he lives, consider that he maybe living with roommates and doesn't have anywhere near what he claims, but most likely, has only interest of trying to figure out how he can get you into a sexual compromise.  A great clue that a man is not serious about being with a woman long-term is if he repeatedly talks about you and him going away or the second famous slick rick-ness,  if you live far from each other, exclaiming how making a day at a hotel, one day, as a romantic moment on a whim he plans to surprise you with one day.

There are many ways to check on a man's history both romantically and socially.  Date online wisely.  Do not compromise your values just because men online have access to woman globally.  Keep that in mind also that just because you are dating him in your city, that it doesn't mean he doesn't have eyes for someone in another site.  Monitor his online habits and remember, men who lie online are the same type that lie offline.  To find romance, use your same value system and intellect as you would dating someone you meet initially, in person.

Do Men Lie Online? (beg of true story)

As for people who lie online, the most famous for men is their age and for women their size.  This is at least what many men and women that I have spoken to complain about. I have experienced it too, when I indulged briefly searching for romance through online dating consistently, for several months.  For example, I was interested in the profile of a mature man of fifty-one years of age, who when I met him, although youthful, it was obvious to me, he was closer to being in his late fifties.  I continued to talk to him and go on casual dates since it appeared, we had many of the same goals and desire about seeking a serious relationship, he appeared to have the type of goals I could respect and he appeared to be sincerely interested and it appeared we could build businesses together.

Fortunately for me,  during the six months of allowing him in my circle, I did not get intimate with him and found out that he was actually sixty-three years old.  That's no where near the age group I am interesting in dating to find a lifelong mate and certainly, in a situation where a man can lie to that extent about his age to try and date a younger woman, flags of distrust lay over a woman's head.  I would like to think a woman would at least think, a man like that is probably distrustful in more ways.  Turns out, I was right, he was a "slick ricky."

I would suggest, to women especially, when meeting someone online, do not be intimated to get proof of who a person says they are or what they do. If a man has a lot of talk, but doesn't find ways to show you proof of what he's about and says he does, look at it as a flag that he is either not sincere or lying.  If he speaks about having plans for you and then never comes through with talking about what those plans are showing direct moves plans being put in place, he is probably passing and wasting your time.

Men Lie When Dating Online (advice- part 1)

Looking for love can be like a second job for both men and women who are looking for someone to build a serious relationship.  The same rules need apply when searching for a man or woman through online dating.  There are a few tips that people who search online must keep in mind.  People and organizations lie online. What makes you think, men or women will not lie online to find a date too?

Online dating profile pics can be the beginning of an emotional attachment or lead to a profile not getting notice.  Take pictures that are defined and interesting.  Dressing and posing for a picture that can show off the best presentation of yourself is fine, but consider to show a picture of you doing something that you are passionate about as well.  If you chose a hobby to present on your profile page, remember that some things maybe better spoken than shown.  As a woman, if you are a pole dancer, it maybe better to tell someone you have already made a connection with that it is your hobby or even profession than blast the image for everyone to see.

You maybe serious about looking for someone, but a picture of that caliber may merit pursuers that regularly are only after sexual encounters.  As for a man, shooting as a sport maybe something you are impressed in your abilities, but it is a sport that everyone does not understand.  Better to tell someone that it is a hobby your indulge after a conversation or two where you can get a feel of various likes, dislikes and ideas about guns or gun control first.

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