At least I think so. I would like to think that there are actually men and women who are looking for more than sexual gratification when trying to meet someone online. One of the best ways to help ensure a better chance you and a person you meet online could have a better chance of getting to know each other, if you both like each other, is to take your time with getting to know them before meeting them in person. Pictures do not speak a 1000 words. In fact the initial meeting can kill pictures if you meet too quickly, at least that's my impression.
Forming an emotionally attraction with someone through online chatting, texting and phone conversation can make for a transition to meeting far more smooth than talking once or twice and then meeting in person. I have found that a month, though it could be a long wait, can help make for pictures not saying enough on a positive tip. Many people are simply not photographic and others are more photographic than in person. Yet, if a profile and pic was interesting enough for a man and woman to take out the time to connect in conversation, the extra time communicating before meeting each other, might just help with either negating a poor photo or making a really great photo not important in the initial face to face meeting. That's providing of course that the person is generally the age and body size shown in online dating profile pictures.
I have only dated three men I met online. Not one, that I got involved in any romantic interlude. My choices were out of hundreds of profiles I glanced at. I've been registered for online dating sites for just over one year. I'm simply on a mission. I don't want to waste anyone's time or mine. The criteria I spoke about in the post before this one are the ones I initially use and I have to tell you, the age bracket a man is looking for is a bigger for me. It helps me narrow down quickly if I will contact a man or if he has contacted me, whether I will respond or not.
I want to only date men I feel have the potential for me to feel I could maybe consider being their wife and the only way I'm going to feel that way is to periodically view their profiles, find common interest, feel and understand their goals and talk one on one for many hours. Don't get me wrong. That doesn't mean I will not date or expect to marry anyone I meet and date within months or even a couple of years. Nevertheless, he has to have, at this stage in my life, exceptional trustworthiness, commonality, be progressive, emotionally stable, sincere, flexible and very versatile. Looks are secondary. By looks being secondary, I simply mean his face and body doesn't have to be that of a million dollar model. Generally, I'm going to be attracted to anyone I meet, so I will only become more attracted as we get to know each other.
Finally, don't get it twisted. I'm looking for a team player and someone I can serve as a team mate. Anything less, is not going to work. I'm not interested in being a trophy or taken care of, but to help build an empire. There is a certain type of man that can appreciate a woman like myself. I know that type of man has often been wounded, so I know it will both take time to find him and will need to take my time with him.
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